As always, things are changing in our house and as usual I am in panic mode which means sleepless nights and worrying about things that are out of my control. Everything always works out for the best in the end so I should just relax and let go of what I can’t control. But as a worry wart, that’s one thing I can’t seem to do. Continue reading “Changes and worries”
In the darkness of the night and the early morning,
When monsters lurk just behind the shadow of the door
And spiders threaten to come out and hang,
A restless stirring, shows the nightmare is in full swing,
A woman creeps out of bed to start the day.
A list of things to do running through her head,
Making sure the girls have everything for school is her first priority
But its an endless list making her angry and helpless at the same time.
This is when meditation needs to be done (and ticked off the list).
A multitasking meditation, deep breaths while ironing,
Knowing that the things that she wants to work on will get left behind again.
When did life become so busy? When did lists become so long?
A loud swoosh as a door opens, brings the woman out of contemplation.
There’s a patter of small feet running across the hall searching for a grown up,
And a big relieved hug from two sleepy girls as they find their mummy.
Maybe life will be frustrating for a while but the big hugs are amazing.
This book is amazing and Rachel has a way of writing which is very emotional and very raw. Hands Free basically starts with turning off your gadgets so you can spend more time with your children and partner. However, it goes into more depth and just turning off your mobile phone is not enough, you need to connect and be present for your kids. Continue reading “Hands Free Mama by Rachel Macy Stafford”
At the beginning of the holidays I was wondering how I was going to cope with both girls for six whole weeks. However, its now almost over and I’m feeling a little sad about it and almost wish the holiday would start again. It’s not been perfect and I’ve had a little help (more than I would like to admit!) from the TV and Ipad and grandparents taking them but otherwise it’s been quite nice having the girls at home. We’ve not done as much school work as I had hoped and we’ve been quite busy trying to get things repaired and updated around the house. But I’ve loved having lie in and not rushing breakfast, and just spending nearly all day chilling. Continue reading “The last few days of the summer holidays”
This is the first summer holidays where both girls are at home with me. The younger one is only off because she is changing nurseries so I thought it would be nice for them to both be off and at home together. Not sure what I was thinking and I’m only half way through. Well the good points of being at home are: Continue reading “Summer Holidays!”
From the number of books and online courses that I’ve read, I feel like I should be a parenting guru myself in theory. In practice, it is a so much more harder and I’m not even sure why. From the books that I have read and which I will review at a later date, some of the things that I’ve noted include:
1. Don’t spend all your time talking to them from behind a computer or a mobile phone – have tech free time.
2. Show unconditional love to your children
3. Spend time with them and make your family a priority, not an afterthought or once I’ve finished everything I will spend time with them.
4. Talk to them with the respect and love that you do have for them in other words, don’t take out your days anger on them
5. Spend time connecting with them
6. Let them help you with things even if it takes longer for you to get things done
7. Have a daily family time with your kids and partner
8. Make time for them, not just taking them from one place to another or making them do their homework but actually talk or do fun things with them.
9. Make a gratitude list, not a to do list.
10. Simplify your life.
So far I have read the following books, courses, facebook and blog posts on parenting:
Hands Free Mama – Rachel Macy Stafford (Book, Website, blog)
Great Parenting Show – Jacqueline Green (website and free courses)
The Price of Privilege – Madeline Levine (I’m still reading this book)
Positive Parenting – toddlers and beyond (Facebook Posts)
Attachment Parenting UK – (Facebook posts)
Constance Hall – (Facebook posts and blog)
There are also lots of parents that have funny posts and that makes you feel that you are not alone at being a bad parent but these listed above are some of the ones that make you want to be a better mum and a better person in general. Like I said, in principle it’s great but in reality, it can be a bit hard and dull and seemingly old fashioned to devote your life to your family. However, when I did take on more work it was stressful to another level so I’m scared to change my work situation too much. At certain times, when they are young or ill they do need more of your attention and then work and other parts of life get in your way but when they are happy in general and can easily get along then simplifying your life seems to be boring and the need to have and want more kicks in. But my girls are still young and I don’t like shouting at them, so I do want to make some changes even if I can’t make all of them, even if it means getting bored with what I have for a while. I’m sure it won’t last forever and I when I look back in nostalgia, it will hopefully be lots of good memories, I will remember.
New house, new school, new start! I want to keep up the positivity.
Following on from last weeks blog, I’ve had a sit down to think about what it is I want. For ages, I have wanted a job working from home so I could spend quality time with my girls. I have two jobs working from home but I feel like I’m spending all my time working and then not actually spending any quality time with the girls. I have been feeling like I don’t have the time to pause and think. I do like the work I do but just need more time to do it.