Practising Certificate

I can’t see the point in me having a practicing certificate.  I know when I first started to apply for it, I was getting frustrated at what a long process it was, trying to update it, get everything signed, send everything off etc.  When I got the certificate it really did feel like a sense of achievement but I am (fairly) happy doing work for others on a subcontract basis. I do a few tax returns, only two that I get paid for and I think my ATT certificate covers that so at the moment I really can’t see the point in having a practicing certificate.  Continue reading “Practising Certificate”

What do I want?

There’s a lot happening at the moment and I don’t know exactly what it is that I want. I think I would like a permanent job but even that doesn’t guarantee a lifetime of work and stability. I think I want my eldest daughter to go to a regular school and then you hear of horror stories and so I change my mind and I want her to stay at the private school which we can’t really afford.

There’s so many online businesses and courses going around that I want to do but I’m not sure why and what’s the point. For now I’m going to stick to my accounting, blogging and yoga and looking after my girls. Cooking, beauty, crafts, reiki etc. can wait.  The online money making schemes which seem to take your money first without even guaranteeing you’ll get any money back in return seems to good to be true.  Then there’s the ultimate blog which keeps telling you to slow down and enjoy life. How can you fit everything in and still be happy, healthy and  rich? I guess ultimately, that is what everyone wants, to be happy, healthy and rich.

Happy and rich don’t always go together. It’s almost seen as a ultimatum, you can be happy but not rich or rich but not happy. If you’re rich enough to be comfortable and not make any sacrifices then surely that is a good thing and you are happy? I think for now I need to start focussing a little bit on what I want and need to do to put my family first including their health and happiness. As much as I don’t like cooking, I’m going to attempt to be healthy, be active and stop slobbing in front of the TV for my girls or computer for me.
I also need to get into some sort of routine for holidays where I can do some work but also spend time with them and even going places.
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Nicheing

I’m not 100% sure if nicheing is even a word but that is what I think I should be doing.  I’ve been reading lots of posts and articles about how you should have a niche and then focus all your writing, work, if you have anything to sell on that.  There’s also lots of lists about the things you could niche or sell online.  So I’ve been thinking about what I could niche about in my blog and here’s my list:

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I’m never satisfied

When I have some work, I want more work.  When I have the more work I wanted, I can’t cope and don’t want so much work.  I really don’t know what I want. I don’t know whether I want a lifestyle or a career but I don’t feel like I am doing very well with either.  I don’t have the dedication to be a career driven person at the moment but I don’t want to just work to get by.  I would like to have the lifestyle of the perfect work life balance but at the moment we don’t really earn enough money to be able to do that.  Plus when I think about it, I’ve worked so hard to get here and now I do nothing substantial? Other times I think, when will I stop to take a break and enjoy my life.  Still other times, I think I’m too young to want to slow down but I can’t keep with the amount of stress involved with working so much as well as doing everything else. Continue reading “I’m never satisfied”

10 strategies to stop your life spiralling out of control once you become a mum

1. Breathe

Take deep, long , slow breaths as often as you can

2. Make a list

This helps keep your mind focussed on what needs to be done.  Although, even a list can spiral out of control.  But if you do have a list that is spiralling out of control, make another one with a list of things that needs to be done right now.

3. Sleep

The power of sleep is amazing! For your mental wellbeing and your physical health.

4. Exercise

Another thing that needs to be done to keep you fit and well and to show your children the lifestyle that the need to have.

5. Make a timetable

This will help factor in all the things that you need to do in a day before you take on more work or other responsibility unless you plan to work til 2am every night!

6. Prioritise

With so much going on in your life now, you need to sort out what is important and what can wait until you have more time. Focus on what is important. Make sure you factor in the time it takes with the school run, cooking, exercise, admin work etc.

7. Live your life for now

Plan your lifestyle for now. You can’t think that if I do this then I will have this routine forever.  Things change, your job and interests change.  Nothing is for life anymore. Obviously, save and plan for a future but don’t always keep looking into the future and worry about not having enough money.  Even your millions could disappear in a flash.

8. Unexpected things will happen

It doesn’t matter how much you plan for something good or bad to happen there are some things that you just can’t control.

9. Enjoy the moments

Look at the colours of the leaves on the tree. Look at your beautiful baby sleeping for now. Look at your daughter giggling for no reason. Remember to stop and enjoy the moment.

10. Change your mind set to be happy  

If you plan for bad things then bad things will happen. Sometimes its almost like asking karma to do the bad things that you are worrying about in order to justify your worries. If it’s meant to be it will be, nothing is going to change that. So try and stop worrying and think of happy things.

At the beginning of the week, I’ve been thinking that my life has been spiralling out of control and I can’t cope with my life the way it is and then unexpected things happened. But this is my life and I can be in control of how I face it and I can be happy. So the above is the talk I had with myself! Now I’ve got to put it into practice.

Timesheets!

I hate timesheets! For most of my working life I’ve been using timesheets that you’d think by now, I’d be immune to them. Being self-employed means I have to account for every hour (minute even) that I work before I get paid. I completely understand the justification of it and in theory it really is a good idea but for some reason, I still hate doing them.

At the moment, there are some days when I do a bit of work and then my daughter needs the toilet (we are in the midst of toilet training and so I drop everything when she says she needs to go!), I take her, come back and something else has popped up so I get distracted and start doing that as it seems small and I think I can do it quickly. But then, before you know it, the whole day has gone and I’ve not recorded what I have done and how long it has taken me except that I know I’ve been working all day.

On days like that, the best thing to do would be to try and remember everything and write it down while I still remember. Obviously, I don’t! I faff around and think I’ll write it up tomorrow because I won’t forget. I’ve tried using a phone app, pen and paper and spreadsheets. Nothing seems to tempt me into writing up my timesheet. Considering that I like writing so much, you’d think I’d love this opportunity to write down every last detail of what I’ve done in the day.

In the end, I check the emails I’ve sent on those days to recall what I did, I check the audit function of the accounting packages I use and I get there. I bet if it was called something else, I’d happily sit there and complete it. Or maybe it was because I was attempting to work from my mum’s house this week. I think I just need to get my mind around it and maybe call it a blog!

Rollercoaster!

This year so far has been like a rollercoaster ride.  I can’t believe it’s already July.  It started off nice and chilled and then things just kept happening this year and I feel like I’m always playing catch up.  ‘Once that’s done I’ll be able to relax’.

It’s great working from home. I have the flexibility to work more or less whenever I want but this flexibility also means that some weeks it feels like all I’m doing is working.   Sometimes the kids are in the background wanting things, playing with things and sometimes they’re not.  I want to spend time with them and do stuff with them but there’s always something else I need to do.  With my granddad being ill, I’ve been driving up and down (2 hour round trip) to go and visit him especially with his stay overs at the hospital.  But luckily everything seems good with him at the moment.

My older daughter’s school is still not totally sorted.  We’ve got a back-up school with a private school but we’re still waiting to see what will happen with the appeal.  Then from September things will change again.  I don’t know if it will be easier or worse with the older one being at school.

Also, with work, I picked up more sub contracts (paying for private school has been playing on my mind). They seem to be a lot easier than looking for work for myself which is another issue, possibly for another blog!  But even with work, it got a bit too much so I stopped one subcontract because I can’t physically do all the work and spend time with the kids.  However, even though I’ve dropped one, I still feel like I don’t have enough time but then when I come to do my timesheet at the end of the day, I have no idea where my time has gone.

It’s good to be busy but I don’t think I’m getting the balance right.  I don’t mind working late some nights but I don’t really want to do it all the time.  Also working late has caused me to make some mistakes at work and I don’t want to lose the work I do have as there doesn’t seem to be much more part time, flexible work.  And somehow, I still need to finish toilet training my younger daughter.

I’ve got some time off booked now.  I’m hoping that I can spend at least some of this time to relax and catch up on stuff and hopefully get more organised and not feel so rushed all the time.  And to think that at the beginning of this year, I had planned for a nice, almost relaxing year with a little of bit of work to keep me busy and I planned to do lots of exercise and eat healthily.  Most of that’s all out of the window!

And breathe…