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Reiki Attunement

I went to a Reiki course recently. Not sure what made me do it and when I was there, I was reading other people’s story about how their life changed after doing this course even though they didn’t realise it at the time.

The course involved learning about Reiki and its history in the morning and then meditating before stopping for lunch. Then after lunch we had our attunement, and then we did some practicing on ourselves and then on each other.

I think the main reason I wanted to do the course was so I can help my daughters and husband when they are not well. It feels amazing and so simple that by placing your hands over them, you have special power to make them feel better.  Maybe it is all gimmick but it is one that I was happy to try out.  The meditating and grounding yourself sets you up for the practice and to receive the Reiki.  The Reiki then comes through you to your hands.  The attunement is where you are given the Reiki.  When she did the attunement on me, it felt like I had some sort of warm orange ball in my hand and my hand felt like it was heating up.  I almost felt scared to let go of it.  When we started practicing and I was placing my hands over my body I could feel the heat coming from my hands.  I’ve never had hot hands before so there must be something in the attunement.  Even the other girl I practiced on said she could feel the heat from my hand.

I am now in the middle of the 21 days of self-practice. Apparently you need to practice for 21 days before you are fully attuned to it.  It’s going ok but I have missed a few days and when I first started it, I became really ill.  At first, I thought it was the Reiki cleaning my body out but maybe I just had a tummy bug because I feel back to normal now.  On the days I do get to do it properly I can feel my hands feel hot so maybe there is something in that.

I’ve already tried it out on my daughters a bit but I can’t really say it makes much of a difference yet. Not sure what I expect the Reiki to do to them though.  In an ideal world, magically make them fall asleep through the night and then spend the rest of the day being as good as angels! I can dream! Continue reading “Reiki Attunement”

Paranoid

This weekend we had a wedding and my girls were bridesmaid.  They looked amazing and did really well walking down the aisle especially the one year old!

Anyway, after that, the older daughter had a bit of a cold an cough and a tummy ache. So I gave her some calpol and we came home early.  We had another cousins 30th birthday and barbeque in the evening and my older daughter was looking better but I decided I didn’t want her to go to the barbeque. We stayed at home and watched some Peppa Pig while my husband and younger daughter went to the barbeque.

Afterwards, I felt that maybe I was being paranoid. She was just tired and only had a little bit of a cough and cold.  Just going to a barbeque wouldn’t have been the end of the world, especially if I was there with them.  Maybe I am being a little too obsessed with them? Maybe I’m going to stifle them with being too overprotective?  Hopefully, this phase will pass and has only come on because of what happened to my younger daughter, but what if it doesn’t?

No More Teeth!

I want to write a follow up blog to this blog below which I originally posted on accountingweb, on 29th July 2014. I’m not sure I want to post the follow up on accountingweb yet though. Here’s the original blog:

I spent Friday night in A&E with my younger daughter, taking back all the bad things that I have ever said about her, even in jest. Mainly that she is too much hard work or that I had her too soon. I love her so much.

This weekend was meant to be a good weekend. It was my nephew’s birthday on Thursday and we went out to eat. Friday and Saturday we had tickets to the local music festival and had got upgraded to VIP. It was a family music festival. I wasn’t too sure what to expect so I thought I would take my girls along and see how they get on. Things were looking good. Then my youngest daughter had a bit of a temperature. She kept biting her hand so I put it down to teething. I took her to the festival for about half an hour but she wasn’t enjoying it so then I dropped her off at my mother in laws. I told her she was teething and left a bottle of Calpol with her.

I went back to the music festival where my older daughter was getting her face painted. She then spent the rest of the time there dancing and running around until she got tired and then about 9pm, we decided to go home. By then the battery on my phone had died and I had lost my spare battery (so much for smart phones). So, as soon as I got into the car I started charging it and started listening to the messages and then rushed straight to the hospital.

Apparently she had had a fit due to the heat. It was the first time she has had a fit. It only lasted a few seconds but that’s enough to scare anyone. I spent the rest of the weekend keeping her cool and checking her temperature. In hindsight, there are so many things I would have done differently. Like going to the music festival in the first place! But she’s ok now, touch wood and fingers crossed.

Last time she was teething, she had a nappy rash that spread all the way to her legs and arms and I had to go doctors to get some stronger cream to clear the spots. Obviously, she needs her teeth but I just need a break from them coming through!

Top Three tips for Starting a Business

This is a blog I posted on the website MotivatingMum UK about setting up in business.

So it’s mummy mentoring month and I want to give some advice based on what work I do. I am an accountant so the best sort of advice that I am disposed at giving is in doing your accounts and tax returns and complying with Companies House and the HMRC. Also, as I am starting off too, I’m in the best place to be giving advice on something I’ve only just started doing myself. So as an accountant, here are my top three tips:

1.Decide what type of business structure you want. There are three main types: sole trader, partnerships or limited companies.

There are pros and cons to all types. Sole traders and partnerships are generally good if you are just starting up and don’t plan to make much and are still unsure as to how your business is going to work out. These types of business have less admin costs and it’s only the tax compliance you need to worry about. A limited company is good if you have a long term plan and you know you are going to make a profit in the future. A limited company has more structure and in the long term there will be more tax benefits.

2.Once you’ve decided your business structure, you need to tell everyone. By this, I mean not just on Facebook, twitter and blogs and all your friends and family but you need to inform HMRC and Companies House.

If you are a sole trader or partnership, you need to let HMRC know that you will need a self-assessment tax return and that you will be paying class 2 tax as soon as you have registered. You will also need to take into account class 4 tax when you start making a profit.

If you are a limited company, you need to inform HMRC of self-assessment for yourself personally as a Director of the company and then for the company, you need to register for corporation tax, if you have a payroll, then payroll taxes and if you need or want to register for VAT. These are the main taxes for a company. You also need to register your company with Companies House.

3.Finally, you need to make sure you choose a good accountant. OK, so you’re thinking, here’s the sales pitch, surely I’m breaking the rules, but hear me out first. To start off with, especially if you are a sole trader, you may be able to do a lot of things by yourself, as there is a lot of information on the internet and to be honest, even the HMRC website and helpline is getting a lot better.

However, there will come a time when you either don’t have the time to do all the tax and accounts or it just starts getting a little complicated or you hear something at the school gate and wonder if it applies to you and wish you had someone with a little more knowledge to talk to, and that’s where accountants step in.

My advice when choosing an accountant is don’t always go for the cheapest one on the block, I’m sure the charges will pile up. As with everything, make sure you get on with them and can build up a good rapport and also see if they are honest with you and let you know where there limitations are and how they will deal with it.

For more information on this or for help with your tax returns, get in touch with Q.A. Accountancy Services.

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Everything happens in threes

I did not have a very good start to this weekend.  It wasn’t life threatening news or anything like that but it did upset me.

The first thing happened when on Friday when I went to the dentist. I paid £18.50 for the dentist to check my teeth and tell me everything was ok. No scaling, no polishing and instead I get told that I might have an underactive thyroid.  It’s odd enough that the dentist tells me this but then it got me all worried.  My aunt had cancer of the thyroid and recovered, my mum’s on thyroxine so in a way I kind of knew that I might have problems in the future.  But I was hoping the future was still a long way, away.

Secondly, my youngest daughter decided to try some mouse poison at my in laws house! They were green mouse poison pellets, left by the door to kill the mouse but you turn around for a second and she decides to try it.  The word poison puts the fear in you but then after checking on the internet and the NHS direct line and the guy at rentokill who put the pellets there, even if she had swallowed it, it’s not life threatening.  Luckily, it didn’t seem like she had swallowed any and she had spat it out as it didn’t taste that nice and she didn’t have any of the symptoms, so we were very lucky, I think.  It’s not the first time she’s tried eating something that she shouldn’t so I need to start keeping an eye on her and what she puts in her mouth.

Finally, the news that did tip me over the edge was on Saturday morning.  I went for my smear test and got told by the nurse that she couldn’t see the string for the contraceptive coil.  It could be just curled up and stuck, or it might have got lodged inside of me or it might have fallen out. If it has fallen out, I could be pregnant! I’m struggling with two kids, I have never wanted more than two. Even, my second daughter I sometimes think I had her too soon but since it took me ages to get pregnant the first time round, I decided not to wait too long for baby number 2. Hopefully, the fact that I have an underactive thyroid means that the likelihood of being pregnant is low anyway but I really hope the coil is not wedged up somewhere. I do get a lot of backaches.